You may have seen a television commercial this holiday season from a well-known American car company depicting a holiday family gathering centered around an older family member living with dementia. While the ad ends on a happy note, families dealing with dementia don’t always experience quick or simple resolutions. For those navigating the holidays with a loved one who has dementia, we offer some guidance.
What Is Cognitive Loss?
Dementia refers to a gradual decline in cognitive and functional abilities that can begin subtly and progress to significantly interfere with daily life. As it advances, dementia may affect basic tasks like eating, bathing, dressing, or using the bathroom independently.
Common symptoms of dementia include:
- Confusion
- Repeating stories and questions
- Difficulty recognizing faces or remembering names
- Trouble following conversations
- Displaying inappropriate behaviors
Keep It Simple
Holiday planning can be elaborate or simple. When caring for a loved one with dementia, simpler is often better.
- Prepare familiar foods: Traditional recipes and favorite dishes can create a sense of comfort and inclusion. For example, bake their favorite cookies.
- Limit guests: Invite smaller groups to avoid overwhelming your loved one. Large crowds, noise, and commotion can cause anxiety or agitation.
- Provide a quiet space: Designate a room where your loved one can retreat if they feel anxious or overstimulated.
- Choose familiar music: Opt for traditional holiday tunes your loved one may recognize. You may find that while they struggle with names, they can sing every word of a familiar holiday song.
Prepare Relatives and Friends
- Prepare guests: Let visitors know about any changes in your loved one’s condition, such as differences in personality or communication abilities.
- Explain to children: Do your best to explain to children what to expect and how to act around older adults with dementia.
Focus on the Important Things
Simplify your plans and focus on what matters most. Be flexible and adjust expectations to fit your loved one’s needs.
Engaging activities might include:
- Looking at old photos
- Listening to classic holiday music
- Decorating the tree together
- Assigning straigtforward tasks like placing napkins on the table or helping wrap gifts
Avoid asking, “Do you remember when…” Instead, focus on making new memories together.
Take Care of Yourself
Don’t forget to prioritize your own well-being. It’s natural to feel sadness when reflecting on past holidays. Give yourself permission to create a smaller, less stressful celebration. The focus should be on spending meaningful time together.
How We Can Help
Healthspan Partners of SWFL is administering the new GUIDE Dementia Benefit to support people living with dementia and their family caregivers. Contact us today at 863-356-1979 or use our secure online form to schedule a conversation. No family should face dementia alone.